Sometimes things happen that cause us pain. I’m talking about specific events more so than ongoing feelings of anxiety or depression, but I guess some of the following is relevant to both.

Jobs change, people pass, things we want might not come to us in the time we want them to. Sometimes things just don’t go according to the plan in your head or things happen that you know will happen but still cause you a lot of grief, panic or pain.

There’s the saying that when life throws you lemons you can choose to make lemonade. Others just approach things with an ‘every cloud’ attitude. But sometimes you just want to tell those people to piss off. You feel sad, hurt, angry – whatever. And you need time to process those emotions before you can see any silver lining or feel okay about things. It’s easy to drop in vibration during these times and feel disconnected from the divine help you could be getting. You might even feel angry at the universe or think that it’s all nonsense – that we are born then we die. This can happen more so after the passing of someone close to you. You can start to feel dense and a sense of your own mortality. But if there’s something inside of you still wanting to connect and receive help from the divine but don’t have the energy for meditation or other practices – what can you do?

Here are the five most effective things I’ve found helpful when you’re experiencing emotional pain and disconnection from everyone/everything. Five things to feel calm and lift a low mood.

Be
Just be. That’s it. Sit outside, go for a walk, lay on the floor. Do whatever helps you relax. I like to swim, go to the sauna, sit on a bench in my garden, walk or do yoga…. And write (see number three in this list). Being, just being, helps your body calm itself, slow down to a more comfortable pace. It helps your mind to slow and be if your body is also just being. If you’re in a state where your body is ruling the mind then this is the only place to start! Calm that body so your mind and soul can reclaim their control.

Process
If you have a million thoughts running through your mind then you need to process them. Putting them in an ‘I’ll deal with it later’ pile is sometimes a useful coping tactic, but not a long term strategy. Some say you should let negative feelings go – and they’re right to some extent. But you’ll be more effective at letting go if you process that thought or emotion first. Recognise it, explore where it came from – why are you thinking or feeling that? Decide what you can learn from it – only then let it go. The next item on the list is a great way of processing.

Write
It doesn’t really matter what you write. Maybe you feel like writing about how you feel, maybe not. Maybe you just want to scribble down ideas or write about what you did that day, or what you want to do tomorrow. Writing helps you focus. If you can bring yourself you write about how you feel then this can be even more therapeutic. Often when you slow down to the pace you write at your thoughts become clearer and things connect a little better. Even better when you get hand cramp and you need to pause – you can reflect on what you’ve just written. I also find that my higher self becomes clearer and louder when I slow down and write out my challenges and feelings. Read more about your higher self.

Pray
This word used to make me cringe so bad. I always used to associate it with religious nuts praying because they weren’t connected to the real world. Ha. It’s actually people who don’t pray who are missing out on the world of the divine. I use a prayer book where I write down prayers for all things big and small – and of course prayers of thanks and gratitude. I’ll blog specifically about prayer another time but for now – just prayer for what you need. Do you need healing? Do you need people to give you space and understanding? Just ask. Or give a prayer of thanks for any support you get or things that make you feel good. Ending the day on a positive feeling of gratitude can’t be a bad thing, right? What have you got to lose?

Make affirmations
I will feel better today. I won’t let the outside world mess with my inner peace. I am beautiful. I am rich and fortunate. I am worthy of love from myself and others. Whatever makes you feel good. Write it down. Say it out loud. Or just say these things in your head. Love yourself.

Give the above a go. Already tried these things? How did they help you? Anything you’d add to the list? Get in touch using the form below.

Love and Light.

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